The Art of Thank You

Because “thank you” means everything.

Confession.  I am offended rather easily by what I perceive to be ingratitude and I don’t think I’m the only one.  But there’s an easy fix and it’s “thank you.”  While I am traditional enough to enjoy a lovely thank you card, I can appreciate a phone call or text too.  But to say nothing when you receive a gift is rude.

Thank you cardTips

Here are some tips I’ve picked up along the way that have helped me and now I’m sharing them with you.

  1. Timing is critical.  In other words, don’t wait too long to send a thank you – whether it be a note or message.  When I was a kid my mother used to make me phone in a thank you to my aunties right after I received their gifts in the mail.  The same principle still works.  Different occasions have different timeframes (for weddings I think you have a year), but my advice is not to let the grass grow under your feet.
  2. Keep your message simple and personal.  You don’t have to wax poetic nor be verbose in your thank you notes (or texts).  I think that authenticity is best.  So if you’re appreciative just say so.  I guarantee that it will be well-received.
  3. In other words – don’t go overboard.  You don’t have to overshoot your thank you.  I remember when my father died a friend sent a card with two books of stamps.  It was an ideal and appropriate gift for me since I was planning to send thank you cards out to people who had sent me gifts and cards.  When I called to thank her she made it clear that she did not want a thank you back from me using the stamps lol.  I could have ignored her but I didn’t.  She knew that I was grateful from the call and sending her a thank you would likely have been been going overboard.

When to send a thank you:

  1. For a gift.  In general, if someone gives you a gift, I think that you should send a thank you note.  However, there are modern ways to do this.  I know someone who posts a message on Facebook and tags us all in thanks.  Not traditional, but the message is sincere and immediate.*
  2. For an experience.  If someone goes out of his or her way to do something nice for you I believe that it’s appropriate to drop a card in the mail or send an e-card via email.  This is especially true if you appreciate the gesture.

*Exception: With some of my family and friends who have become family, we have a tradition of gifts for birthdays and other occasions.  I would be sending notes constantly.  So I think that this is the exception to the rule.

Stay tuned for ideas on creative ways to say “thank you.”

Be Inspired.

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